In Love? Take a Look in the Mirror First

Pam and Bill Farrel

In our new book, The Before You Marry Book of Questions, we offer plenty of personal reflection and ample interactions for a couple to complete, if you will “dates to decide” through some “coffee and conversation.” One of the best places to begin the discernment process in a relationship is to take an honest look in the mirror and ask “Am I - is my life—relationship ready?”  

If you are single and not dating, you can use this as a goal setting sheet to be better prepared by creating a  “Life ready to invite someone to share.” If you are dating someone exclusively or seriously, then this is definitely a needed inventory for you each to complete—and ask then take a second time asking if they one you are interested in, the one you love is ready for the most important commitment—marriage. Do a quick inventory and see just how ready you might be for a more serious relationship that is leading to marriage:

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How Ready Am I?

You should have marked all these yes and if you have not, then those are the areas you will want to make forward movement on before jumping into a serious dating relationship, engagement or marriage. Things do not need to be perfect, but from your side of any and all relationships, have you tried to make things “right”?

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A smart person will seek out the best mentors in life—and in love. If you are brave, ask two or three of your mentors to also answer these questions with you in mind. How ready do he/she think you are for marriage?  It is our hope that the fun “dates to decide,” the creative conversation starters, and the deeper interactive in The Before You Marry Book of Questions will mentor you to discover, decide then enjoy a love for a lifetime.

Pam and Bill Farrel are international speakers, authors of over 38 books including this new book, The Before You Marry Book of Questions as well as bestselling Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti. To learn more go to

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Publication date: November 6, 2013

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