5. Unexpected Changes
My final strategy is perhaps the most natural yet. Though inevitable, humans still fear and loathe the unexpected. They fix an idea in their minds of what should be, and then hold tightly to it, perceiving anything outside of their expectation as a personal attack. They build a castle that is so easily shattered! All I must do is shift the bride’s focus to the unforeseen change: a wilted corsage, a groomsman with mismatched socks, a photographer’s delayed arrival. The bride will mourn when she would otherwise be rejoicing.
Do not let your joy be so easily extinguished! The purpose of your planning was to prepare for the event, but it is impossible to prepare for every single thing that may arise. When something unexpected occurs, assess whether or not it’s something that needs to be fixed. Mismatched socks hidden under pant legs can be overlooked, for example. If something does warrant attention, try to delegate the task to someone else like an aunt or cousin. Your loved ones are there to support you and are often eager to help. The phrase “It takes a village” extends beyond childrearing! Only get directly involved if the situation requires it. And remember, unexpected changes are not inherently negative! Maybe a guest is able to come at the last minute, or your nephew’s funny stunt as ring bearer becomes a viral sensation. Embrace whatever life throws at you with steady feet.
How easily will allow yourself to be manipulated on your wedding day? Satan has a whole bag of tricks, which he will use to try to distract and discourage. You, a child of Christ, will not be swayed. Peter, who warned us earlier that the devil prowls like a roaring lion, tells us to: “Resist him, standing firm in the faith…And the God of all grace…will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast” (1 Peter 5: 9-11). Amen.
Maria Cheshire is a third grade teacher in Northern Virginia. She enjoys running, traveling, and playing with her dog Lilly. You can find teaching resources created by Maria here: https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/Store/Va-Sol-Superstars.
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