4. Keeping Our Thoughts and Words in Check
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On some of my most challenging parenting days, I have to admit that I struggle with my thoughts and words. My mind becomes a battlefield and, occasionally, when left unchecked, whatever thought has been rolling around my head makes its way out of my mouth.
Have you ever been there, a criticism or insult dripping off of your tongue? Proverbs 18:21 reminds us that “the tongue has the power of life and death,” our words have meaning.
Before a word ever leaves our lips it first has to roll around in our minds. In our most difficult moments, as Moms, we have the opportunity to practice and model restraint for our children, measuring and monitoring our words is a starting point.
In 2 Timothy 1:7 the apostle Paul writes, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” Mommas, this means we get a choice.
God has already instilled the spirit of love and sound mind within us. This is a great tool for us to lean into as we parent. We can process our thoughts and restrain our words, we can give life to our children, rather than break them down.
Now, keep in mind, this is not a path of least resistance. No, checking our thought life takes work and often repentance. I’ve sincerely lost count of the number of times I’ve had to repent for my thoughts! Nonetheless, this is worthy work that will create peace in our parenting and set the tone in our households for our children.
The work of raising children is incredibly beautiful and yet difficult work. None of us know who we are raising, nor do we know the impact that we will have on our communities and the Kingdom through our children.
There are hard days to come, and yet we can remain steadfast, trusting God with the outcome, and resting in his abundant peace. On the hard days, we can cling to God’s word and submit what is difficult to prayer.
Each day we get to take full delight in our children, just as God takes delight in us. Our children are a gift; as we raise them and daily walk them through the refining process, we too are being refined.
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