"Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate” - Mark 10:9
Divorce. Most people would be hard-pressed to think of a family who hasn’t been scarred by this word. It’s a word that doesn’t escape us— from the youngest child to the aging parents having to watch their adult children’s lives overturned by its whisper. Regardless of ages and stages, socio-economic class, race, religious belief, or sexual orientation, it is a word that typically leaves destruction in its wake. But, unlike so many other tragedies that plague us, it is one that can be avoided.
Typically two people don’t start off down the path into wedded bliss with a hope that their marriage will end in divorce. Usually, it starts as a doubt, a thought, or a fear whispered into the darkness after being severely wounded. For others, the word is hurled across the room as an ultimatum or a consequence in a fit of rage. It is rarely the first option and rarely does a couple decide on this outcome amicably. Divorce is just not part of the fairy-tale dream-- but it is a reality that many face. Sadly, the warning signs are often apparent to others before those in the center of the problem realize what is going on.
There are probably many divorced families who would agree that the path to marriage doesn't begin with the catastrophic. It's the little things-- the words and behaviors, the habits and actions that steer the marriage train down a destructive path. Perhaps if more couples were diligent about establishing good habits, more marriages would move back from the ledge-- one step away from the "d-word" and one step closer to a marriage that thrives instead of endures.
In case you are wondering which habits lead to divorce, we've compiled a few for you: