Dr. David B. Hawkins

Being loving extends ourselves, making us larger, kinder and more gracious than we were before.

An affair is perhaps the most painful event that can occur in a marriage, but God is still in control and answers prayers.

Each situation demands that we balance our emotions. This is often easier said than done.

Sometimes you must weather an emotional storm before you can rebuild your marriage. You must view crisis as an opportunity.

‘Making a point’ can be harmful, and when we strive to ‘make a point,’ we often become too intense and prick our mate.

Language and communication are critical aspects of any relationship. When we leave anything unsaid, much of the communication is lost.

Men, as most of you women (and men) know, are not the easiest creatures with whom to make a connection.

‘Turtling’—or withdrawing from conflict—often has a very detrimental impact on the relationship. Of course, so does exploding.

“We can help you repair your marriage,” I said. “It will take humility and hard work. You must let go of pride and stubbornness.”

At nearly every intersection in a relationship, especially the tense touch points, you have that choice: wound or heal.

Every relationship is built upon loving attention.We want our spouse to make time for us, to show their intention of making us feel special.

I have found that a common thread in their relationship is a desire for mutual respect. In fact, one without it will be dysfunctional in some way.

Every relationship has its rough spots. There will always be those times, and those topics, that are more difficult to manage than others.

“I can’t get my husband’s attention. We haven’t been emotionally connected for years and I’m not sure it even bothers him.”

"If I felt safe there would be a lot more I would share with her. I’ll bet she has a lot more she would share with me as well.”

"We are embarrassed that we have been through failed marriages. There has got to be a way to guard against this one failing too.”

A spouse who is willing to take any necessary steps to regain trust is more trustworthy than someone prideful, closed and resistant.

“Did you ever stop to look at her complaints?” I asked the disgruntled boyfriend. “Can’t really say I did,” he said.