Dr. David B. Hawkins

You've never been perfect. But once, perhaps, you were more focused, more intent on being the best person you could be.

Fact of the matter is, even small changes can create positive changes. You will have to trust me and trust the process.

Let’s consider a few emotional truths to be aware of and practical steps to remedy the problems of passive-aggression.

Because our minds and bodies are connected, we will naturally experience emotional pain in physical ways.

“Are we going to be able to hold onto the tools we learned?” Gina asked. “There’s been so much, I’m afraid we will backslide.”

In addition to remorse and regret, effective, lasting recovery must also include accountability, support and treatment.

We have co-created our problems and have co-dependently enabled these problems to continue and must now co-labor to remedy them.

“Everywhere I look there are triggers. Every song I hear seems to trigger me. I wish it didn’t, but the triggers are everywhere."

As is often the case, one broken part of a marriage ripples out. James had been unfaithful twice in their twenty-five marriage.

“When I know she’s going to be critical of me,” Jonathan began slowly, “I brace myself. I try to prepare for it.”

“My husband has left me,” she said, crying. “I don’t know what to do.” “Tell me what has happened,” I said.

“I don’t feel like you are really listening to me...You say you understand me, but you always have pushback to what I’m saying.”

Most people struggle with finding the balance between boundaries and compassion.

“I’m just so frustrated,” Betsy said, shrugging her shoulders and turning away. “He won’t stop arguing with me."

“What is happening in your marriage?” we asked, sensing the detachment each felt with the other. Both appeared sullen, wounded

We all need to be appreciated, and this appreciation helps keep the emotional connection open between couples.

“He’s left and won’t make any commitment to come back,” Meg said sadly, referring to her boyfriend.

We all want to be celebrated, and encouraged, and even a small amount of effort, done in the right way, will reap great rewards.