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Discover the Book - Nov. 7, 2007

  • 2007 Nov 07


Teach and Model Godliness

Conclusion Part 5 continued from November 6th


What are some practical steps a Titus two woman mentoring a younger woman in the faith would teach? Here would be some wonderful starters: 

  • Decide that you will make your own husband your number one most important human relationship of life over your parents, brothers, sisters, and friends.
  • Start to seek your husband’s friendship and love ahead of all other human relationships, including your children.
  • Begin examining your lifestyle and schedule to see if you are intentionally “spoiling your husband rotten” if you are doing so as a way of life, then you can be sure that you are his best friend and are truly “loving” your husband.  

Here are some habits to cultivate to keep on in your love for your own husband: 

  • Pray for your husband daily.
  • Plan for him daily things like: special acts of kindness, special dinners, special times alone, special meals alone, early bedtimes for the children, going to bed at the same time.
  • Prepare for him daily: prepare your heart with being clothed with God’s love; prepare the house; prepare your appearance; prepare your greeting; set the table; clear out all visitors; stay off the phone; pray for his arrival.
  • Please him daily.
  • Protect your time with him.
  • Physically love him, let him know that you are available at any time that would please him.
  • Positively respond to him.
  • Praise him.
  • Pray without ceasing  

The classic book on Christian marriage by Ed Wheat summarized the marriage God wants us to have in four rules to be followed contained in the acronym BEST. For the best marriage possible live God’s way by a series of small choices: Blessings, Edifying, Sharing, Touching. Wheat defines these areas as: 

  • Blessing: means to speak well of your husband or wife, show kindness towards them, express gratitude and thankfulness for all they do, and pray for God’s richest blessings upon them.
  • Edifying: means to build them up. A husband does this by praying for his wife; and the wife does this by seeking to respond in a positive way towards her husband.
  • Sharing: means always looking for how to do things together like—listening to each other, admiring each others accomplishments, learning more about each other’s likes and dislikes, investigating ways to please each other, and finally reporting on your day to each other so they share your life.
  • Touching: means to just like to be as close to the one you love as is physically possible. Either remember what you were like when you were dating your wife, or notice some young couple headed towards marriage. They intentionally just can’t stay apart, they laugh, talk, look at each other, hold hands every moment possible, sit as close together as possible, and so on.  At that stage they can face any problem and go on because they are so strengthened by the warmth and depth of their love.  

God commands us in Proverbs to be intoxicated by the love of our partner (Proverbs 5:18-19). If you are married and not intoxicated by the love of your partner, you are missing the best marriage possible.  

Go back and by God’s grace rekindle the blessing, edifying, sharing, and touching that always builds a strong, close, encouraging partnership for life. Be a beacon of Christ's love reflecting to an empty and hopeless world that true love is possible and can be shared for as long as you live. 

The greatest priority in a home should be love. If a wife loved her husband and her children, she was well on the way to making the marriage and the home a success. In our Western society, a man and a woman fall in love and then get married; but in the East, marriages were less romantic. Often the two got married and then had to learn to love each other. (Eph. 5:18-33 is probably the best Scripture for a husband and wife who really want to love each other in the will of God.) 

Godly women live as a priest for God; with guarded tongues; and no excesses; with visible integrity; as earnest mentors of-- wives who are their husband’s best friend. 

[1]  Demosthenes (384 BC to 322 BC) wrote, “We have courtesans for the sake of pleasure, we have concubines for the sake of daily cohabitation, and we have wives for the purpose of having children legitimately and being faithful guardians for our household affairs?”  The Biblical family also faced the challenge of feminism as “women desired to do everything men did, some women went into wrestling, sword fighting, and various other pursuits traditionally considered to be uniquely masculine, and increasingly took the initiative in getting a divorce”. MacArthur, John F., The MacArthur New Testament Commentary: Ephesians 5, electronic edition (Chicago: Moody Press) 1983.





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