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Discover the Book - May 28, 2007

  • 2007 May 28

Joy of a Word Filled Family Series




No Regret Families


When your life is done, and you look back those last few weeks or months that you have before cancer, or heart or respiratory problems overtake you – will you regret these days of your marriage and family? Will you be saddened when you remember these days? Will you be saddened when you see what your children are doing? Or will these have been the greatest years of your life? I think the choice is yours. Where are you headed in your marriage and as a family tonight? You will never get to anywhere you are not headed right now!


2 Timothy 4:6-7 For I am already being poured out as a drink offering, and the time of my departure is at hand. 7 I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.

Look with me at Ps. 127-128 where we find the inspired sketch of the beautiful stages of God’s work at growing a wonderful marriage and family. As we look, ask yourself: Is this what I want? Is this what I have? Is this worth changing areas of my personal life to accommodate God's Word and my response?


Psalm 127:1-2 A NO REGRET FAMILY IS CAREFUL to lay a Godly foundation: Unless the Lord builds the house, They labor in vain who build it; Unless the Lord guards the city, The watchman stays awake in vain. 2 It is vain for you to rise up early, To sit up late, To eat the bread of sorrows; For so He gives His beloved sleep.


Psalm 127:3-5 A NO REGRET FAMILY IS CAREFUL Trust God for blessed fruitfulness: Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.


Psalm 128:1-4 A NO REGRET FAMILY Enjoys a happy family life: Blessed is every one who fears the Lord, Who walks in His ways. When you eat the labor of your hands, You shall be happy, and it shall be well with you. Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine In the very heart of your house, Your children like olive plants All around your table. Behold, thus shall the man be blessed Who fears the Lord.


Psalm 128:5-6 A NO REGRET FAMILY Enjoys the fulfillment of a godly family that is satisfying IN old age: The Lord bless you out of Zion, And may you see the good of Jerusalem All the days of your life. Yes, may you see your children’s children. Peace be upon Israel! And as the Apostle John said at the end of his life in 3 John 4 that the supreme earthly joy we can ever experience is when we see our family following the Lord! “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.”

Quite a promise -- what an opportunity to have such a rare and precious home. And that is exactly what the Lord offers to us this evening.


There are few words that can describe the sheer delights of a marriage as God designed it to be. The Lord planned for His people to have marriages described as:

·      Joyful rivers of intoxicating blessings (Proverbs 5:18-19),

·      Fruitful vines that delightfully grow around our lives (Psalm 128:3),

·      Such wonderful attraction that seven years of hard labor waiting for this is like a moment (Jacob in Genesis 29:20),

·      Goodness and favor from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22), and

·      A companion of our youth (Malachi 2:14-15) to whom we make a life long covenant to;

·      and enjoy so much we “sport” (Genesis 26:8) with them!

All of us here tonight blessed in our marriages and families can testify what God's Word describes is exactly what we who have followed the Lord have experienced.

·      A Biblical or a no regret marriage and family is just a small snapshot of the delights of Heaven.

·      A Biblical or a no regret marriage and family is just a living portrait of the perfect love of Jesus.

·      A Biblical or a no regret marriage and family is just a traveling demonstration of the way the Lord works on earth.


Winston Churchill[1][i][1] once attended a formal banquet in London at which the attending dignitaries were asked the question, "If you could not be who you are, who would you like to be?" Naturally, everyone was curious as to what Churchill, seated next to his beloved Clemmie, would say. When it finally came to be Churchill's turn, the old man, who was the dinner's last respondent to the question, rose and gave his answer. "If I could not be who I am, I would most like to be" — here he paused to take his wife's hand — "Lady Churchill's second husband." The old boy made some points that night. But his comments also apply to everyone of us this evening who has a no regret marriage and family.


Our marriages, if unattended, begin to slowly decline in closeness, intimacy, fruitfulness, and blessing. To illustrate this several years ago, the Saturday Evening Post published an article entitled: "The Seven Ages of the Married Cold." It revealed the reaction of a husband to his wife's colds during their first seven years of marriage. It went something like this:


The first year: "Sugar dumpling, I'm really worried about my baby girl. You've got a bad sniffle, and there's no telling about these things with all this strep throat going around. I'm putting you in the hospital this afternoon for a general checkup and a good rest. I know the food's lousy, but I'll be bringing your meals in from Rossini's. I've already got it all arranged with the floor superintendent."

The second year: "Listen, darling, I don't like the sound of that cough. I called Doc Miller and asked him to rush over here. Now you go to bed like a good girl, please? Just for papa."

The third year: "Maybe you'd better lie down, honey; nothing like a little rest when you feel lousy. I'll bring you something to eat. Have you got any canned soup?"

The fourth year: "Now look, dear, be sensible. After you've fed the kids, washed the dishes, and finished the floor, you'd better lie down."

The fifth year: "Why don't you take a couple of aspirin?"

The sixth year: "I wish you'd just gargle or something, instead of sitting around all evening barking like a seal!"

The seventh year: "For Pete's sake, stop sneezing! Are you trying to give me pneumonia?!" The decline of marriage as seen through the common cold. A funny look at a not-so-funny reality.


[See May 29th Newsletter for Part 2 of this message]



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