Grace-Energized-Women are Reverent in Behavior
Part 2 Conclusion continued from October 28th
Twelve Godly Characteristics of Highly Useful Women
Women who are highly useful to God have these characteristics. The long-term goal of their lives is geared towards being useful to God. Parents who want their children to be useful for the Lord begin early on to point their children towards the high calling and great joy of being a Titus 2 woman and the Titus 2 man.
The whole goal of a Titus 2 woman is to train younger women in Biblical, simple-to-measure, Spirit-empowered, love-based living.
We will examine the character God desires, calls for, and uses in women of any age. This is the lifestyle all women of any age in this room should long for, strive for, and aspire towards. Basically, a Titus 2 woman is a godly wife who loves her husband in such a profound way that he appears deeply satisfied in her love; and she is also a godly mother whose children know they are deeply loved. Look for a woman that radiates love and joy and you have the Titus 2 woman.
Think of the most loving, gracious, self-sacrificing mother you can imagine—one that knows you, loves you, helps you, understands you, encourages you, comforts you in each failure, and rejoices in every good choice you make; you have just imagined the Titus 2 woman of Christ's church.
Every woman in this church should either be a younger woman being mentored in Titus 2:3-5, or looking for a Titus 2 mentor, be a Titus 2 woman, or be on the way to becoming one. It is Christ's method for strengthening every marriage, every family, and every life in His church!
Godly womanhood, as laid down in God's Word, is caught, not taught.
Paul did not call for Titus as the pastor to train all the women in these qualities God wanted them to cultivate; rather he called upon the godly older women of Christ's church. He singles out the women of faith, those who had already learned to love their husbands, learned to love their children, and learned to be reverent, godly, modest and wise—and charged them with seeking out and meeting with every younger woman in the church.
Paul seems to describe far more than a Bible study for those early church believers—he called for small group, practical, hands-on training sessions, and one-on-one nurturing in homes by an older-woman-in-the-faith as the norm. Older women aspired to have the joy of entering the home and life of another woman and pouring her love, her life, and most of all her godly experience into that younger woman’s life, marriage, and family.
Just briefly let me describe the fantastic end results of this Titus 2 long-term, behind the scenes, encouraging, discipleship, and coaching ministry. Paul gives us--
The Results of Titus 2 Women in Ministry
Titus 2 women encourage a grateful army of husbands who feel deeply loved by their wives.
- What was the first thing that the Holy Spirit chose to have taught to the young married women believers? LOVE THEIR HUSBANDS.
- Can you imagine what a deep and lasting impact upon this local body of Christ's church to have men coming home to a wife who is earnestly being taught how to love her own husband?
- Such love is a powerful testimony in a culture where women are being pressed into being worldly, self-seeking, independent, and do-their-own-thing women.
- If nothing else, every family at TBC would be enriched if every younger woman was taught in a practical, simple, and personal way how to love her own husband.
Titus 2 women train younger women in one of the hardest and yet most rewarding investments in life—children who feel deeply loved by their mothers.
- The Holy Spirit emphasizes very clearly that the key to raising children is LOVING them.
- Titus 2 women train, teach, model, and mentor moms into the deepening of love for their children that can be felt.
- One of the most common complaints of the 21st century child is that they don’t feel loved. Most mothers love their children, but many children are not feeling that love.
- Titus 2 women are coaches that tutor and mentor young moms in ways to show love that can be felt.
Titus 2 women train younger women to be discreet, sensible, and wise in the decisions and choices they make.
- What a rich resource for new marriages and families to have a young woman walked through those days side-by-side with a godly, Spirit-filled woman who will regularly, personally, individually mentor, mother, coach, and cheer on younger women in skillfully living as a wife, mother, and woman of God on a day to day basis.
- Titus 2 women weren’t primarily found in classrooms—they were in the kitchen with a younger woman, in the dining room, in the nursery, at the grocery store.
- Titus 2 women were hands-on tutors nurturing younger women in the laboratory of life--walking through life together praying, sharing, learning, and loving.
Titus 2 women train younger women in the holiness and purity that pleases God and unleashes the power of the Spirit.
- The training that a Titus 2 older woman gives is a seven-part package, that is immensely practical not theoretical. Modesty, purity, chaste behavior must be learned, modeled, and practiced.
- God directed the power of godly, Spirit-filled women of Biblical maturity sitting over a cup of tea discussing with younger women what pleased God in dress, in behavior, conduct, and so on.
- Christ's church needed younger women who learned Biblical modesty through a godly older woman lovingly applying God's Word to daily life.
Titus 2 older women teach younger women the centrality in God’s plan of a woman’s priority being her home.
- Homemaking is a learned art and so many women never have the hands on training that is needed.
- Life is so full that our culture has moved away from homemaking and few young women get mentored in the godly, Biblical art of home making.
- God placed the first two priorities on the Titus 2 list as loving husbands and loving children. Younger women are called to see the priority of their homes; and the only way they can learn that priority is by a long-term relationship with a godly woman that has mastered that art.
Now, let’s begin a step by step look at all 12 characteristics of a Titus 2 woman. Paul lists them in the verses we already read. Here they are one-by-one. The older women are to have mastered all 12 and the younger women are trained in the last seven. First the character of the older woman in the faith is profiled.
v. 3a "the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior” (1)
Paul first draws a word from the Roman world to capture the entire bearing of these godly role model women in Christ's church. He uses the word that meant to operate as a priest in a temple. In the ancient world temples to gods were always outside of town. People had to stop, take a bath, change into special clothes and then walk down a "sacred way" often a mile or more to the temple. Then they were served by sacred priests who acted as representatives of the gods.
The Greek word translated “reverent” is used only here in the Bible, and it conveys the idea of priest-like. That word for ‘acting as a representative of a god’ is the word Paul uses to describe the devout and godly character of the Titus 2 woman. Older women are to live like holy priests serving in the presence of God. Their sacred personal devotion to the Lord has slowly come to influence every aspect of their lives.
This is the Greek word semnos meaning “august, venerable, honorable” or in the context of a local church, a woman who lives in such a godly way she can be emulated and venerated for her character. Her life is an example to the women of the flock of all ages. 1 Timothy 3:11 Likewise their wives [women] must be reverent (NKJV); 1 Timothy 3:11 Women must likewise be dignified (NAS); 1 Timothy 3:11 In the same way, their wives are to be women worthy of respect (NIV).
Paul calls all of us who will be useful in Christ's church to the same high calling. This is the same word (in basic form) used for deacons: 1 Timothy 3:8 Deacons likewise must be men of dignity (NAS); and the same basis word to describe the Titus 2 older men of renown to be followed: Titus 2:2 “Older men are to be temperate, dignified” (NAS); or worthy of respect (NIV).
Paul extends this priest-like attitude for life to be the goal that all believers should seek as it says in 1 Timothy 2:2 “in order that we may lead a tranquil and quiet life in all godliness and dignity” (NAS); or holiness (NIV).
This word also shows up in the guide for what a believer is to think about in Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble—meditate on these things” (NKJV). Paul was reminding the early church believers that what they thought about and allowed to stay in their minds is what they would become.
So this consecrated, godly woman heeds what Proverbs 23:7 says, “For as [a person] thinks in his heart, so is he.” The Titus 2 woman knows that whatever she reads, listens to, watches, and allows to stay in her mind is what she will become.
So a godly woman (or any believer) who allows anything, whether TV, movies, magazines, or any other media to stimulate her flesh by feeding her mind with lying, profanity, illegitimate sex, gossiping, occultic images, and so much more--will slowly have their mind depart from “noble, dignified, worthy of respect, and holiness” and soon after their actions will follow their mind away from being “reverent in behavior.”
Godly older women have simply taken Romans 12:1-2 seriously.
They have presented themselves to the Lord, they have begun to live life the way God asked them to live—as a walking temple of God, as a consecrated priest of God, as a living sacrifice, and as a bondservant of the Lord.
Godly women seek to be reverent in their behavior.
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