by Dr. Charles Stanley
Friday March 3, 2006
Ending the Blame Game
A woman disciplining her son sends him to sit quietly in a chair. Glaring over his shoulder, he walks to the chair and circles it a few times until his mother says in a firm voice, “Sit down!” The boy does, but as she leaves the room, he calls after her, “I’m standing up on the inside!”
We can’t control people, not even our own children. But thankfully, this universal truth means that we cannot be controlled by others, either. Yet we often cast blame as if someone else’s actions dictated our emotional response: “Joe made me so mad…”In reality, Joe could not make you get mad; you chose to be angry (justifiably or not).We also decide whether to react in a godly or worldly fashion when someone hurts or frustrates us.
No matter how much blame we attempt to offload onto others, the Lord cannot be misled by our maneuvering. He looks only at the heart when determining how to discipline believers or convict them of sin. As a result, the blame game does not end up making us look better. Instead, it hinders our fellowship with God. The responses He is looking for are forgiveness when we are hurt and repentance when we do the injuring. Otherwise, we are too caught up in either vengeance or escaping culpability to focus on spiritual matters.
Followers of God are to sow peace and grow spiritual fruit like love, joy, and kindness (Galatians 5:22-23). If you are clinging to blame, all that is growing are the emotional “weeds” separating you from God’s best. Ask Him for forgiveness and the strength to forgive others. The blame game is over.
Take the next step in your spiritual walk today! Enroll for free in the Charles Stanley Institute for Christian Living and learn biblical truth under Dr. Charles Stanley.
Visit In Touch for the latest radio and television sermons from Dr. Stanley, plus much more!