Crying to God
We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
We may need to pay the price for our wrongs in order to wake up and admit them. And as we suffer those consequences, the pain may be increased by seeing our loved ones and friends draw back from us, while our enemies close in for the kill. Those we love may withdraw in order to deal with their own pain, leaving us feeling abandoned. Those we wish would leave us alone prepare to attack and destroy us.
David knew what this was like. He prayed this prayer when experiencing the consequences of his wrongs: "My loved ones and friends stay away, fearing my disease. Even my own family stands at a distance. Meanwhile, my enemies lay traps to kill me. Those who wish me harm make plans to ruin me. All day long they plan their treachery. But I am deaf to all their threats. I am silent before them as one who cannot speak. I choose to hear nothing, and I make no reply. For I am waiting for you, O LORD. You must answer for me, O Lord my God. I prayed, 'Don't let my enemies gloat over me or rejoice at my downfall'_" (Psalm 38:11-16).
Sometimes there's nothing we can say that will make up for what we've done. Instead, it's a time to call out to God for his protection. God can help us to deal with our wrongs. He can draw our loved ones back to us and put an end to the arrogance of those who gloat over our downfall. God is not one of our enemies. He doesn't enjoy our pain. But, he will often use the natural consequences of our actions to get our attention.
As we confess to others, we need to be silent as they respond, and depend on God for protection.