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Transformation Garden - June 2, 2010

  • 2010 Jun 02


"And David sent messengers  to Ishbosheth, Saul's son, saying, ‘Give me my wife Michal, whom I betrothed for a hundred foreskins of the Philistines."
II Samuel 3: 14, Amplified Bible


"The Temptation To Take Advantage of Another"

"Nothing's done well when it's done out of self-interest."
St. Therese of Lisieux

Has someone ever taken advantage of me and in what way?

Have I ever taken advantage of someone else and in what way?

"‘The best thing for everyone concerned' what people always say when they have arranged something exclusively to suit themselves."
Shirley Hazzard


"I do not believe our wants have made our lies holy."
Andre Lorde

David wanted something. He'd earned it. He'd done what King Saul required in order to receive the hand of Michal,  his daughter, in marriage. Now with Saul dead, David decided to undo the wrong he felt had been committed against him. Forget the fact he had six other wives with children. He wanted someone else. He wanted Michal back and so, because he could, he took advantage of a bad situation and ordered Ishbosheth to send his sister Michal back.

It didn't matter one bit that she was married to another person. David wanted her and he would get her. Anyway he could!

Author Mary McCarthy wrote these truthful words: "Is it really so difficult to tell a good action from a bad one? I think one usually knows right away or a moment afterward, in a horrid flash of regret."

As I read these words, I asked myself, "How often, when trying to get my own way, have I succumbed to taking advantage of another person just so my wants could be met?

Unfortunately, I believe most of us could dig up some experience, perhaps even long ago buried, where we have "used" someone along the journey of life, to promote our own agendas. And in the case of David, it didn't matter that he had a huge, extended family of his own. There was something or in this case someone he wanted, and he wasn't going to leave any stone unturned getting what he longed for. I hope we remember this story, for it is a precursor to the story of David and Bathsheba. Remember what we found out -- David's behavior toward Bathsheba didn't just happen. The labor pains of this birth started in Hebron with David's callous behavior toward Michal when he ordered Ishbosheth to get her back to him.

Who cared about the pain David was causing in Michal's home. Certainly not David.  He wanted back what he had fought for. He wanted back his possession.  And rather than treating Michal with kindness and concern -- David took advantage of his position and grabbed what he wanted for himself.

Sad to say, the world we live in reflects David's behavior a great deal of the time. And don't tell me, "Well, it was the way society worked  at that time." To this statement, I have one word, "Baloney!"

All throughout the Bible, we find God had daughters and sons who understood that right and wrong meant something. The lines weren't blurred. And for most of us, we know full-well when what we are doing is right and when it is wrong.

Just think of what it would have said about David's character if he had chosen to let Michal's life continue as it was. What if he had recognized how much he had ( six wives that we know about) and was satisfied with his bounty.  But that didn't happen. David wanted more and it was an appetite he decided to keep feeding until the day his yearning for more and more was completely out-of-control.

What a sad result of falling for the temptation to take advantage of another.

"Perhaps the straight and narrow path would be wider if more people used it."
Kay Ingram
Saturday evening Post


"Write Thy blessed name, O Lord, upon my heart, there to remain so indelibly engraved, that no prosperity, no adversity shall ever more move me from Thy love. Be Thou to me a strong tower of defense, a comforter in tribulation, a deliverer in distress, a very present help in trouble, and a guide to heaven through the many temptations and dangers of this life."
Thomas a Kempis

Your friend,
Dorothy Valcarcel, Author
When A Woman Meets Jesus

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